Rekindling the Flame of Sisterhood: How We Show Up for Each Other Every Day

Just like membership into Delta Sigma Theta, sisterhood is also a lifetime commitment. And like any meaningful relationship, it requires effort, intention, and sometimes, a little rekindling. Life gets busy. Work, school, family, and all the responsibilities we juggle can make it easy to put our sisterhood on the back burner. Maybe you’ve lost touch with your line sisters. Maybe chapter meetings feel more like a business obligation than a connection space. Maybe you’ve even felt a little disconnected from the bond that once meant so much to you. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: it’s never too late to rekindle the flame of sisterhood. Sisterhood Month is the perfect time to refocus, recharge, and reignite the love, support, and connection that makes Delta Sigma Theta so special. Let’s talk about why sisterhood matters, why checking in is a game-changer, and how we can bring the warmth back into our relationships—starting today.  

Sisterhood is More Than Just “Good Vibes”—It’s a Lifeline

We all love the fun parts of sisterhood: But true sisterhood isn’t just about the highlights—it’s about how we show up in the in-between moments. Sisterhood means:

• Checking in when someone withdraws, even when they say they’re “fine”
• Extending grace when emotions run high
• Holding each other accountable—with love, not judgment
• Uplifting and encouraging each other, even when no one else does

Sisterhood isn’t just about feeling connected—it’s about staying connected. And sometimes, that means making the first move.  

Rekindling the Flame: How to Reconnect with Your Sorors Maybe you’ve lost touch with your line sisters. Maybe chapter meetings feel like all business, with no bonding. Maybe you just haven’t felt that spark in a while. It happens. But the beauty of sisterhood? We can always get it back.

How to Reignite Sisterhood in Your Life:

• Reach out—just because. No agenda, no request, no reason other than “Hey sis, I miss you.”
• Schedule a sister date. Lunch, coffee, a FaceTime call—anything to rebuild the connection outside of Sorority business.
• Re-engage in the chapter. Been distant? Find a committee that speaks to your heart. Engage in sisterhood-focused events. Get back in the mix.
• Apologize if needed. Sometimes, distance comes from misunderstandings. If something was left unsaid, be the one to start the healing.
• Be open to new bonds. Sisterhood doesn’t stop with your line or your clique—expand your circle!
• Celebrate each other. Publicly or privately, big or small—support your sorors and let them know they’re appreciated.
• Small actions make a big difference. A simple “Thinking of you” can rekindle a flame that’s been dimmed by time and distance.

  We Need Sister Check-ins: Because “I’m Good” Isn’t Always the Truth

We’ve all been guilty of saying “I’m fine” when we’re really not. Sometimes, it’s easier to say we’re okay than to unpack the truth. That’s why real sisterhood requires us to check in—even when everything seems okay on the surface.

How to Check In with Your Sorors (For Real, Not Just in Passing):

• Ask twice. If you sense something’s off, ask again: “No really, how are you feeling?”
• Listen without trying to fix. Sometimes, we just need someone to listen—no solutions, no advice, just presence.
• Send a random “thinking of you” text. It’s small but can make someone’s whole day.
• Be intentional about reconnecting. Don’t just assume people know you care—show it.
• Utilize the Sorority’s Sister Check-in List. If you don’t know where to start or what to check in about gain inspiration from the Sister Check-in Lists posted on the Sorority’s Facebook and Instagram.

Checking in doesn’t mean you’re prying or overstepping boundaries—it’s about reminding our sisters they’re not alone.  

Self-Care & Sisterhood: You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup Here’s something we don’t talk about enough: You can’t be a good sister if you’re running on empty. So many of us pour into others without taking care of ourselves first. And while and sisterhood and service are our main priorities as Deltas, we have to remember that burnout helps no one.

How to Take Care of Yourself While Still Being a Supportive Sister:

• Set boundaries. You can love your sorors and say no when needed.
• Prioritize your mental health. Therapy, rest, and alone time are just as important as service.
• Find your balance. Give what you can, but don’t neglect yourself in the process.
• Ask for help when you need it. Strong women need support too.

A healthier you = a healthier sisterhood. When we take care of ourselves, we show up better for each other.  

Emotional Intelligence: The Key to a Stronger Bond

Sisterhood isn’t always easy. Disagreements happen. Service is hard work. Many of us leave our day jobs and attend chapter meetings carrying the emotions of the day. Emotions get involved. But how we handle these moments determines the strength of our bond. Using emotional intelligence can help us navigate conflicts with grace, patience, and understanding. How to Use Emotional Intelligence in Sisterhood:

• Pause before reacting. If something upsets you, take a moment before responding.
• Assume good intent. Most of the time, nobody is out to hurt you—misunderstandings happen.
• Communicate directly. If there’s an issue, go to your soror, not around her.
• Lead with love. Critique should be constructive, not crushing.
• Be willing to forgive. Holding onto grudges weakens the bond we work so hard to build.

If we all approached each other with a little more patience and grace, imagine how much stronger our sisterhood would be.   Let’s Keep the Flame Burning Sisterhood Month is our chance to rekindle the flame—but let’s not stop here.

Make checking in a habit, not a holiday. Support your sorors in big and small ways. Reconnect, rebuild, and re-engage. Create new sisterhood traditions that keep us close.

At the end of the day, we are so much stronger together. Delta Sigma Theta is a lifelong sisterhood. But like any relationship, it requires work, love, and intentionality to maintain. Let’s make sure that Delta flame never burns out! Happy Sisterhood Month, sorors!